The trick of Ashley Madison, a website for those seeking extramarital affairs, has dominated the news in recent weeks. Some 32 million account holders were exposed when hackers published the raw data online in August, with multiple celebrities and other important people (pastors and prosecutors alike) hanging their embarrassed heads. No apologies are issued and even lawsuits are filed, it is really a disaster.
But the reality is that this is not new, of course: most Americans say that infidelity is wrong, but matters happen. Research shows that about 25% of married guys and 20% of married ladies cheat.
1 Feel unsatisfied with each other
It is a cliche because it is true. "Dissatisfied" could mean that you are not sexually synchronized with your partner or that you are not happy with the relationship, but that disconnection can make you or your partner more likely to cheat, suggests a 2011 investigation by the Archives of Sexual Behavior. The study found that 72% of men and 62% of women who cheated said they were not happy in the relationship. And 74% and 48% of men and women who cheat, respectively, said they were not sexually compatible with their partner.
To help your relationship test relationship, it is important to be honest with each other about your needs and desires, express your feelings and show your partner that they are important to you.
2 A wage gap
People who bring the bacon home, and have a partner completely dependent on their earnings, are more likely to be cheated, according to a new study in the American Sociological Review. It can be a way in which the spouse who does not win or who earns less matches the bets in the relationship. They discovered that men took inequality with greater difficulty, making them more likely to deviate compared to women.
As with all things related to money, communication is key, even if that means simply expressing accumulated resentment. When you discover the source of frustration, you can deal with it in a way that makes you and your partner happier and meet your expectations for the relationship. (Instead of letting it cook under the surface).